Is it possible to change this?
Is it necessary to change this?
Society values those who appear to be brave, pious, honest, and respectful more than those who actually are.
What do you think about this?
Is it actually true, first of all?
Do you have examples?
I do have examples
I know a lot of people who pretend to be one way around a group and act completely differently when they’re away from that group.
They seem virtuous,but they are not.
So, inevitably, society will reward these people.
But how do you know they’re pretending? You can show respect for people whom you fundamentally disagree with around them for respect’s sake. Or, to perhaps even “walk on eggshells” around certain folk you understand hold different worldviews and opinions than yourself out of courtesy, respect, kindness, empathy, or what have you.
The more friends the average person has, generally speaking, the more better off they will be in life or in times of distress and unfavorable circumstance. Usually.
People like to be liked, essentially. It’s an ingrained biological and psychological dynamic. This “people pleasing” dynamic can be found in other situations. For example, “solidarity” with someone you know who has cancer and is going through chemotherapy and so shaves one’s own head so they feel less alone. Said person is not “pretending” to have cancer. They’re not trying to deceive anyone. They are instead simply letting the other person know that they’re not alone and their circumstances and existence is validated, even by simple and novel means of replication and similarity.