If you don’t mind, I’ll just concentrate on this, because I think it’s the heart of your post. Answering it will help me get things clear.
The video and the feed do not distance the viewer from a death they might have witnessed in close proximity. But what is relevant is that the interaction lacks the character of an encounter with a suffering Other, despite having the structure of one. There is a person on one end, and a person suffering on the other—yet it does not elicit a moral response. This gap—social and ethical, not merely spatial—is what I’m calling “distancing.”
More simply put, the face in social media loses its moral demand—witnessing suffering becomes morally neutral. I think that’s significant.
The latter is secondary and derivative, and can become unmoored from the former.
Yes, and this is precisely why the responses of many people are subdued. But some people do respond, and when that happens I take it to be the effect of a pre-societal Levinasian moral response to the children perceived in their individuality, translated into expanded-world rational morality.